10 Things A Single Parent Can Teach A Child On Valentine’s
It’s that time of year again. That pink and red, chocolate-covered, heart-shaped time of year when candy-coated true love rules. But what if you don’t have a significant other? What messages can a single parent teach their child?
Love isn’t just one day a year
Some of the happiest couples I know don’t even bother with Valentine’s Day. And that’s because they celebrate their love throughout the year. That’s the way love should be – spread across 12 months in words and gestures. Not saved for just one day.
Love isn’t just about romantic love
We all know that romantic love, as seen in the movies, isn’t real and doesn’t last. No matter how sexy, gorgeous, heart-stoppingly awesome a relationship is at the start, without laughter, friendship and trust, love becomes a distant memory.
Love isn’t about cards, chocolates and roses
Anyone can buy a card, chocolates and roses one day of the year. But remembering to tell someone you love them each day, to show them respect and gratitude all year round – that’s the best present you can give anyone.
It’s true that you cannot properly love another person until you know how to love yourself. What better way to spend Valentine’s Day than being kind to yourself and letting go of grudges and concerns. Warts and all, you’re pretty darned good.
Love isn’t two-people shaped
Families these days come in all shapes and sizes. Single parent families, same-sex couple families and so on. But love is about all your family members, your friends, the people you pass on the street. Giving someone a smile can make a difference to their day – much better than a heart-shaped balloon.
Love is about little things
Love is about watching a film together, reading a book together, going for a walk together. It doesn’t have to cost money and it doesn’t matter who your together person is.
Love is about being kind
Being kind is one of the best ways to show your love for anything and anybody. If you can do just one thing, then be kind.
Love isn’t just about people
Look at a flower growing, a bird flying, the stars in the sky, the waves crashing on to the beach. And let your heart fill with love for this amazing world we live in.
Love is about acceptance
Some people spend so much time imagining how things should be – a Valentine’s Day being swept off their feet for a romantic trip to Paris, a champagne breakfast – that when life doesn’t live up to their expectations, they feel let down. If you accept life exactly the way it is, you’ll find love comes a lot more easily.
Love is more than a word
We’re bombarded with those four little letters - L-O-V-E - at this time of year. But love is a lot more than a word – it’s about action.
But whatever you choose to say or do, Valentine’s Day is always worth celebrating, just like Christmas and Easter – it’s a great way to kick start good habits for the rest of the year and to remember all the good things you have in your life!